Your Mission For Today: Day 13 of Babystep Challenge To A Peaceful Home

On Day 13 of Flylady’s babysteps, we are to choose one of Kelly’s missions and do it.

I love the way this is done. Each day, Kelly sends out one “mission” to accomplish. It’s something in the current zone, and usually will take less than 15 minutes. By dividing the house up into 5 zones and focusing a little extra time in it each day for the week, our houses can stay reasonably clean without much effort.

I need help with this. Just like regularly doing the 15 minutes of decluttering, I struggle to get it done, even though it really only takes a few minutes.

But they really do work.

This is a link to Kelly’s missions; they are posted daily and remain for the week.

This past week we were in the Kitchen zone. My favorite mission from that zone is the deep wipedown of the counter. I have a large countertop and need to spend most of that time putting things away that seem to collect there (beyond regular putting away kind of stuff), so I’ll usually do 15 mins + a little. And it might not all get done, but that’s ok.

I won’t get blown up if I don’t get it done!

The Kitchen Hangover

Sometimes I don’t shine my sink. I don’t finish all of the cleanup at night. Most days I do, but on Saturday night, after a full day of relaxing and spending time with my family (which causes lots of extra dishes & stuff), my hubby and I like to have a movie night. And when it’s already late and we don’t want it to get any later, I leave things out.

Oh, I’ll pack my dishwasher, and put away any food that’s out. And even do an extra 5 minutes on top of that.

This is where I found this funny photo.

I woke up to this today. I call it my Kitchen Hangover.

It’s a good thing I know how to use my timer. I’ll go as fast as I can for 15 minutes and see what a difference I can make.

15 minutes really does a lot.


Push Delete. Day 12 of Babystep Challenge To A Peaceful Home Day 8

On Day 12 of the Flylady’s babysteps, we are instructed to delete all of the emails that have been piling up. I really like this.

I’ve been on the mailing list for a couple of years. The reminders are good. The testimonials really are helpful and inspiring, and it’s good to realize that it’s ok to not read them all. In fact, lately, I haven’t been reading much of them at all. And that’s ok, since I’ve been exposed to this system for a while already. But if you are really just starting out, read a few each day. Then delete the rest.

Just like decluttering, just like taking out the trash, deleting emails and blog posts in my reader I haven’t read and don’t really need to helps me to get rid of guilt. I have so many things I’d like to do, I want to do, but just don’t seem to have time for. I don’t want to be reminded of what I am not doing.

So go ahead, push that button. It feels good.

More emails will come along.

Inspiring Words:Babystep Challenge To A Peaceful Home Day 11


Today’s babystep is to add an inspirational page to your control journal. I like this. As you know, I’ve done many of these things before; I already have a control journal. But I never added this page. I’m not sure why-I guess it seemed sort of silly to me and I didn’t want to waste my time.

About 6 months ago, I decided I wanted to try to change my habit of negative thinking. I felt I was heading into a depression of sorts. I’d just had my 5th baby in 7 years and I was struggling. Greatly.

I had come to believe that negative thinking is something that a person can actually become addicted to just as much as an addiction to any other drug/food/chemical. Watch this edited clip from the movie What The Bleep Do We Know. It’s fascinating and will show you what I mean.

Watch it to the very end. The most powerful statement is the very last one. “If you can’t control your emotional state, you must be addicted to it.”

If my negative thoughts are an addiction, then I’ve got to break the cycle as I would another addiction. So, I started to formulate a plan.

I remembered listening to a Flylady & Friends show on BlogTalkRadio in which Marla was describing how she helped Kelly to quit smoking cigarettes. She told her to write down some mini-missions (2 minutes or less) on little pieces of paper and put them in a jar. When she felt a strong urge for a cigarette, she was to take out an assignment and do it.

What that would accomplish is to divert her mind onto something productive, something good during the time of her desire for the negative thing. If she could get past the 2 minutes, the urge would be lessened.

I figured that something like this should work for my negative thoughts. So I started a Happy Thoughts Box. I went out and got a very cheerfully decorated box, some cutsey happy but small paper, and a girly fun pen (purple with glitter!) and started writing inspirational phrases or mini missions on each paper. I planned to put them in the box, and whenever I felt myself getting into a funk I’d pull one out and do it. I thought it sounded like a good plan.

I still think it sounds like a good plan, and though I never continued on with it (it seems like just starting the project plus a little more alone/bible time was all I needed to get me back on track) I think that I should do it now.

This inspirational page in the Control Journal is the same thing. I’m going to spend 15 minutes today writing down more thoughts for my box and start a page in my notebook. Maybe if I have something positive in there I’ll look at it more!

What are some of your inspirational quotes? What do you do to get yourself out of a funk?

You Can Do Anything for 15 Minutes! Babystep Challenge to a Peaceful Home Day 10

You can do anything for 15 minutes.

Yes, anything. Things you don’t want to do. Things you think you can’t do. Things you think you shouldn’t bother with because you think it won’t make a difference.

You can. You should. It WILL make a difference.

How do I know? I learned from Flylady. Over and over I am amazed at what 15 minutes of focused time will do. And then I don’t do it (see, it hasn’t become a habit), and then when I do it again, I am amazed. Again.

This is my entrance hall. The view from our dining table (lovely for ambiance, isn’t it?) and the view as you walk in the front door.

How welcoming.

FOUR minutes it took me to make it like this. FOUR.
Including quickly spraying it down & giving it a wipe. I’ve been looking at that stuff for DAYS, thinking I didn’t have time to do anything about it and wishing someone else would, feeling a little sorry for myself that I have such a messy place and obviously I can’t handle this by myself…


A little more welcoming, don’t you think?

What am I going to do with 11 more minutes?

This. This is our liquor cabinet & we also keep our keys&sunglasses basket here. As you can see on top, it’s also got bottles up there. I hate that. Besides looking messy, it makes it seem like we must drink a LOT. Which we don’t. And off in that little nook there is stuff piled on those drawers.

And here’s what it looked like afterward. Notice the CLEAR SURFACE!

Still 3:33 on the timer. (yes, I stopped it to take the pictures!) What else?

This is our hall closet. It has a curtain that falls down when my toddler plays with it because it’s not really attached. It’s been down for days, and I just “haven’t had the time” to fix it.

And here it is with the curtain. Much better.

Still 2 minutes on the timer. I guess I can take care of this little hot spot.

You can do anything for 15 minutes. I dare you!

Declutter. Babystep Challenge To A Peaceful Home Day 9

This is where the challenge heats up for me. Where it becomes….a challenge. Where I have fallen short in the past.

I’ve done these things before, but I’ve not made it a habit to do it every day. And it NEEDS to be done every day.

Flylady’s babystep #9 says to declutter a few minutes at a time. I have a few minutes. I’m sure I do. I just don’t know where I left them. Have you seen my few minutes? Maybe they’re hiding under all this stuff

A 5 minute room rescue is the assignment. I can do that. I’m going to take 5 minutes before I go to bed and see what I can do with all those clothes that get piled up. You know the pile. It’s the not quite dirty but not clean…..unless it’s the clean laundry that didn’t get put away.

I’m tired. I want to go to bed. But, how can I say I don’t have five minutes? I can’t. Because I do. And afterward, I’ll be glad I did it.

Here’s Flylady’s explanation on how to declutter.

What have you decluttered today?

No, I have Not Been Kidnapped By Flylady. My One Hundredth Post.

Those of you who read this blog because I give you nice tips on health & wellness might be wondering what’s happened. It seems that every post lately has been about the Flylady and my Babysteps. Enough, already, you say! I want to hear more about Tofu!

Well, I don’t think tofu’s good for you. But that’s not important right now. (Tee hee-Airplane. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, then you really need to watch this classic movie.)

Yes, I will continue to post about health.

But I also want more peace in my home than I’ve had. I want less chaos, more order, more SANITY!

And this is where my two worlds, my two paths cross. My world of Health and Wellness, and my world of learning to keeping a peaceful home, raising, training, and teaching children. My reality, my real life.

But at a crossroad, you decide in which direction to go. And if you go in one direction, you cannot go in the other at the same time.

“Oh, East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet, ” Kipling wrote.

But, these two roads of my life do more than cross. They run parallel to each other.

An orderly home is a peaceful home. It encourages living life, instead of just getting through it. (Which is what I feel I’m doing most of the time.) With systems in place to help my home run smoothly, I can really live my life, enjoying every day. But those systems don’t just happen, they are learned. One babystep at a time. Enter: Flylady.

A healthy body and healthy family makes a peaceful family. Its members feel good, have energy, and are able to really enjoy every day life. Do you want to feel good? Do you want your children to get sick less often? Ditch the headache and the foggy brain. Lose that “I just wanna go to sleep” feeling. Be able to eat without feeling blah. No more ear infections, no need to fear the flu. Doesn’t it sound nice?

It IS nice. We’re each on a journey in our lives. For me, my roads are both about taking babysteps to a peaceful home, and walking out the steps to a healthy life for me and my family. I’ve been on the path to wellness for many years, and it took me time to get to where I am now. I share with you the way to health, also through babysteps. Babysteps to health.

So, you see, FamilyNatural is about health and wellness. Wellness of peace in your body and at home. I don’t know it all; I’m figuring it out too. Thanks for walking along with me. One step at a time.

How fitting that on this, both my ONE HUNDREDTH POST and FamilyNatural’s one year anniversary my path is becoming something I can grasp, and share.

This is fun.

PS For my Bloggiversary present, please head over to my Facebook Page and “Like” FamilyNatural! Thanks.

3 Ring Binder-Babystep Challenge To A Peaceful Home Day 8

And we are on day #8 of the Babystep Challenge to a Peaceful Home, following Flylady’s recommendations.

This is easy. Get a 3 ring binder and put paper in it. Of course, we all have office supplies hanging around the house. I love office supplies! I LOVE to go to Office Depot and walk around looking at all the things….weird. But I bet lots of you are the same way.


This is where I write down my morning and evening routines; one on each page. I’ve already been practicing them all week. Now I have them written down so that I can check them off and make sure I don’t forget anything.

I’m still cheating a little because most of these have already been habits of mine, and I already had them written in my Control Journal. But, I look forward to re-doing whatever needs to be fixed as I go through these babysteps again.

Pick Out Your Clothes For Tomorrow–Babystep #7

I love this one. But mostly for the children.

In the morning, it’s chaotic enough to get everybody ready for the day without all of us still needing to pick out our clothes. Inevitably a child will tell me that he can’t find socks, or a shirt. (This is because I really need help getting the stuff folded & put away; but I’m working on that. ) Here’s one of the ways I help myself to get the laundry put away.

So, I figured, since it’s so helpful for me to pick out my clothes the night before, just think what a help it is for my kids to do it! And it is. It gives me time to find the missing piece while we’re not hurrying.

As for me….yes, it’s a good habit. But, honestly, I don’t have a huge wardrobe. I usually rotate between the 3 or 4 things that are my favorite for the time of the year. Since I stay home most days, nobody sees me. So, I don’t really mind that my clothes are repeated frequently. I don’t change my jewelry, so this is a simple one.

It takes me about 1 minute to grab a comfortable dress, my underclothes, socks, & lace up shoes. If I worked outside the home or wore more complicated outfits, I’m sure this habit would make even more of a difference!

And in the morning, it’s one less thing I need to do. I like that.

How about you?

Hotspots–Babystep Challenge Day #6

Time for Flylady’s Babystep #6: spend 2 minutes putting out a HotSpot. What is a Hot Spot, you ask? Well, it’s a cluttered area that tends to attract more clutter. It’s your dumping ground. It’s the first thing you see when you walk into a room that makes the room look messy and makes you feel…YUCK. Here’s where Flylady explains what a Hot Spot is on her website.

This is my biggest and most frequent Hot Spot: our dining table. Here is a picture of what it looked like before 2 minutes of clearing it.

You can see that my “desk” area is so cluttered that I’d have to clear a spot just to be able to work. And even if I did that, it would hardly be peaceful enough to promote productivity.


But, after just TWO MINUTES, now look. Pretty, peaceful. And I even changed my location to have a better view, lit a scented candle, have the flowers in sight, and a cup of herbal tea. MUCH better.
And it only took 2 minutes.

Well, 2 minutes plus the time to move & light the candle & make my tea. Still. 😉

In our homes, hotspots can take over. But deal with it regularly, when it is small, and it changes everything.

It’s a good babystep for me; I need to do it regularly.

“Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.”

How are your babysteps coming?

Wanna join in? C’mon, it’s fun!

In case you missed it, here’s why I’m doing this.
And my posts on Babysteps #1, #2, #3, #4.

If you’ve posted your hotspot babystep, Leave a link with your comment so that we can all share in each other’s progress.