I’ve been on the mailing list for a couple of years. The reminders are good. The testimonials really are helpful and inspiring, and it’s good to realize that it’s ok to not read them all. In fact, lately, I haven’t been reading much of them at all. And that’s ok, since I’ve been exposed to this system for a while already. But if you are really just starting out, read a few each day. Then delete the rest.
Just like decluttering, just like taking out the trash, deleting emails and blog posts in my reader I haven’t read and don’t really need to helps me to get rid of guilt. I have so many things I’d like to do, I want to do, but just don’t seem to have time for. I don’t want to be reminded of what I am not doing.
Today’s babystep is to add an inspirational page to your control journal. I like this. As you know, I’ve done many of these things before; I already have a control journal. But I never added this page. I’m not sure why-I guess it seemed sort of silly to me and I didn’t want to waste my time.
About 6 months ago, I decided I wanted to try to change my habit of negative thinking. I felt I was heading into a depression of sorts. I’d just had my 5th baby in 7 years and I was struggling. Greatly.
I had come to believe that negative thinking is something that a person can actually become addicted to just as much as an addiction to any other drug/food/chemical. Watch this edited clip from the movie What The Bleep Do We Know. It’s fascinating and will show you what I mean.
Watch it to the very end. The most powerful statement is the very last one. “If you can’t control your emotional state, you must be addicted to it.”
If my negative thoughts are an addiction, then I’ve got to break the cycle as I would another addiction. So, I started to formulate a plan.
I remembered listening to a Flylady & Friends show on BlogTalkRadio in which Marla was describing how she helped Kelly to quit smoking cigarettes. She told her to write down some mini-missions (2 minutes or less) on little pieces of paper and put them in a jar. When she felt a strong urge for a cigarette, she was to take out an assignment and do it.
What that would accomplish is to divert her mind onto something productive, something good during the time of her desire for the negative thing. If she could get past the 2 minutes, the urge would be lessened.
I figured that something like this should work for my negative thoughts. So I started a Happy Thoughts Box. I went out and got a very cheerfully decorated box, some cutsey happy but small paper, and a girly fun pen (purple with glitter!) and started writing inspirational phrases or mini missions on each paper. I planned to put them in the box, and whenever I felt myself getting into a funk I’d pull one out and do it. I thought it sounded like a good plan.
I still think it sounds like a good plan, and though I never continued on with it (it seems like just starting the project plus a little more alone/bible time was all I needed to get me back on track) I think that I should do it now.
This inspirational page in the Control Journal is the same thing. I’m going to spend 15 minutes today writing down more thoughts for my box and start a page in my notebook. Maybe if I have something positive in there I’ll look at it more!
What are some of your inspirational quotes? What do you do to get yourself out of a funk?
This is where the challenge heats up for me. Where it becomes….a challenge. Where I have fallen short in the past.
I’ve done these things before, but I’ve not made it a habit to do it every day. And it NEEDS to be done every day.
Flylady’s babystep #9 says to declutter a few minutes at a time. I have a few minutes. I’m sure I do. I just don’t know where I left them. Have you seen my few minutes? Maybe they’re hiding under all this stuff…
A 5 minute room rescue is the assignment. I can do that. I’m going to take 5 minutes before I go to bed and see what I can do with all those clothes that get piled up. You know the pile. It’s the not quite dirty but not clean…..unless it’s the clean laundry that didn’t get put away.
I’m tired. I want to go to bed. But, how can I say I don’t have five minutes? I can’t. Because I do. And afterward, I’ll be glad I did it.
And we are on day #8 of the Babystep Challenge to a Peaceful Home, following Flylady’s recommendations.
This is easy. Get a 3 ring binder and put paper in it. Of course, we all have office supplies hanging around the house. I love office supplies! I LOVE to go to Office Depot and walk around looking at all the things….weird. But I bet lots of you are the same way.
This is where I write down my morning and evening routines; one on each page. I’ve already been practicing them all week. Now I have them written down so that I can check them off and make sure I don’t forget anything.
I’m still cheating a little because most of these have already been habits of mine, and I already had them written in my Control Journal. But, I look forward to re-doing whatever needs to be fixed as I go through these babysteps again.
In the morning, it’s chaotic enough to get everybody ready for the day without all of us still needing to pick out our clothes. Inevitably a child will tell me that he can’t find socks, or a shirt. (This is because I really need help getting the stuff folded & put away; but I’m working on that. ) Here’s one of the ways I help myself to get the laundry put away.
So, I figured, since it’s so helpful for me to pick out my clothes the night before, just think what a help it is for my kids to do it! And it is. It gives me time to find the missing piece while we’re not hurrying.
As for me….yes, it’s a good habit. But, honestly, I don’t have a huge wardrobe. I usually rotate between the 3 or 4 things that are my favorite for the time of the year. Since I stay home most days, nobody sees me. So, I don’t really mind that my clothes are repeated frequently. I don’t change my jewelry, so this is a simple one.
It takes me about 1 minute to grab a comfortable dress, my underclothes, socks, & lace up shoes. If I worked outside the home or wore more complicated outfits, I’m sure this habit would make even more of a difference!
And in the morning, it’s one less thing I need to do. I like that.
This is my biggest and most frequent Hot Spot: our dining table. Here is a picture of what it looked like before 2 minutes of clearing it.
You can see that my “desk” area is so cluttered that I’d have to clear a spot just to be able to work. And even if I did that, it would hardly be peaceful enough to promote productivity.
But, after just TWO MINUTES, now look. Pretty, peaceful. And I even changed my location to have a better view, lit a scented candle, have the flowers in sight, and a cup of herbal tea. MUCH better.
And it only took 2 minutes.
Well, 2 minutes plus the time to move & light the candle & make my tea. Still. 😉
In our homes, hotspots can take over. But deal with it regularly, when it is small, and it changes everything.
It’s a good babystep for me; I need to do it regularly.
“Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark.”
Writing down what we need to do reminds us. I definitely need this, but I think I don’t. This is the danger. I keep it all in my head, and most of it I remember. But some of it I just don’t fit in, and I let it just go….
I have a decent Control Journal. It sits on my counter, buried under papers that I never get to.
I don’t use it much.
I’ll start it again.
Do you put post its up around the house? What works for you to remember what you need to do next?
This means getting completely dressed, right away, including hair and face. You act differently, more professionally, when you have clothes and shoes on. When I do this I am ready for anything that might come up (or anyone who might come to the door).
To read Flylady’s complete explanation of why to do this, go here.
This is a good habit and is not one I struggle with. Well, now that my baby is almost 10 months and I’m not up at all hours nursing her. With a tiny baby, I’m lucky if I am able to get dressed at all. Or shower. Or have time to use the bathroom.
Wait a minute, I still don’t get a moment of peace in there!
But I digress.
As I was saying, I have already made this a habit of mine and so I won’t pretend it’s new to me. But, I will say that it’s a good one. I get all the way dressed before I wake the children. My shoes tell my brain that it’s time to go to work.
And, off to work I go!
Did you get dressed to shoes today?
If you want to know more about this series, read this post to know why I’m doing this.
I’ve noticed that some others are blogging their Babystep Challenge Experience. Let’s get together on it! If you have a relevant post, add it below in the Mister Linky! After doing that, please link back to this post so we can all share. Thanks!
Here it is: my shiny sink. I was so excited to have a stainless steel sink when we moved into this house 2 years ago, since my last one was ceramic that looked dingy unless I bleached it at least once a week. So, I never bothered with that step with this one since I always thought it didn’t need it.
Now it’s cleaner than it was before. Looks great.
How’s yours coming?
I even emptied the dishdrain before I went to bed. I never do that. And it sure did smile at me this morning!